“Strong convictions precede great actions.” -James Freeman Clarke
Belief. It can oftentimes be more powerful than reality. It can even change, shift and influence reality. Though it is intangible, we can never underestimate what belief can do.
That is why in September at The Dailey Method we will focus on a more deeply-held belief – Conviction. When you start to do things with conviction and treat yourself as the remarkably capable being you are, you become just that…the remarkably capable being that you are.
Here are four simple ways to succeed with conviction this month:
Set Goals & Visualize What Success Feels Like. Yes, what success physically feels like. If you want to come out of September stronger, meditate on how you feel when you work hard, when you stay on track and when you give it your all…reminding yourself of that feeling is an extremely powerful visual tool.
Did you say Goals? Yes, that’s right. Not only set goals, but write them down, keep them front and center and rely on everything and everyone necessary to keep your beliefs strong. Re-confirm these goals with someone who will hold you accountable (which might happen to be the most blunt person you know. #toughlove.)
Self Compassion is More Helpful than Self Esteem – A study at Berkeley conducted by Serena Chen suggests that those with self-compassion achieve better results than those who simply have a high self-esteem (though you should have both.) One of the reasons for the difference is that people with higher self-compassion tend to see their actions or weaknesses as something to be changed. In short – meet your missteps with the same determination as your goals – acknowledge them, learn from them and then power on with conviction.
Prepare for the Month Ahead – Yes this requires conviction too! Be determined to set yourself up for success. This can mean a solid meal prep plan or mapping out your schedule so that your resolve is not tested. We have all been in that “How-am-I-going-to-squeeze-in-my-workout-today?” panic. Get ahead of the game, be strong and stick to the scheduling and structures that will make life easier.
Speaking of preparation, check out our next post as Align & Shine is just around the corner!!!
“We cannot become what we want to be by remaining what we are.”
– Max DePree
This month’s Word of the Month, Capacity, makes me think about pushing our limits; finding our own capacity and then stepping beyond that.
One definition of capacity is an individual’s mental or physical ability, aptitude or skill.
Each one of these words relates personally to me in regards to our Dailey Cycle program. I am a barre girl. I love barre classes. I feel my strongest and most graceful when I have a barre to hold onto. However, Dailey Cycle was a product that people wanted.
Owners, students, and our community wanted to have something that would give them a greater cardiovascular boost to increase their lung and heart strength. We developed a great product, I was proud of it and stood behind it. At the same time, I kept in the back of mind “this is not for me personally” or “I’m not a cardio girl”… “I’m not good at cycling.”
But alas, I am Jill Dailey. Should I really put my name on a product that I don’t own, or don’t participate in? Not if I strive to be authentic.
So about a year ago I started heading to Berkeley to take classes. OMG out of my comfort zone! I thought I was going to die. I had to hide in the back so no one would look at me or [even worse] try to follow me. I couldn’t keep up high RPMs and had to sit down quite a bit when we were cued to stand. But I persevered and increased my capacity as a result. A few months later I committed to adding the product into my Fairfax studio. I was hugely fortunate to have an enthusiastic, supportive and dedicated group of barre teachers that raised their hands to go through the training with me. While I did the build-out, we received the training and practiced and practiced and practiced some more. We were all good barre teachers but this was something completely new and pushed each one of our capacities in different ways. Mentally, physically, skill-wise and emotionally! I opened the doors in May and my community is embracing and loving the product.
Guess what? I now call myself a Dailey Cycle teacher. I can keep up with the cadence. Sometimes I still have to sit down when others are standing. But I’ll get in the front row and not worry about people following me – because we’re told to listen to our own bodies and do what’s necessary for ourselves not compete with our neighbors. So I do just that. And I LOVE it.
Inhale the future. Exhale the past.
The best part about of Dailey Cycle, and why it is so complementary to our other formats, is that you don’t have to sacrifice any of the core teachings of The Dailey Method® Barre classes. In fact, the core principles are just as important in Dailey Cycle, especially with the fast nature of the classes.
We always start with foundation and alignment on the bike, just like in our barre classes – by Aligning, Engaging, and Moving. We show you how to find your neutral spine position on a bike and remind you throughout class to go back there. We emphasize the back body support that is so integral to your well being and power on the bike. We teach you HOW to ride a bike which can help you be more successful anytime you jump onto a seat, whether it’s inside or outside.
What many people find surprising in a Dailey Cycle class is their own capacity to make it through their first time! Luckily, TDM instructors load up the class with awesome music, creative, yet safe choreography, and different cadences to help you successfully improve speed, strength and aerobic ability. Almost immediately after incorporating a Cycle class into their week, TDM students talk about improved cardiovascular benefits. And let us not forget about the endorphins that only one class produces.
We first need to know our capacity, then we can exceed it!
How can you push yourself this month? How can you increase your capacity in one way or another? I’d love to hear!
We cannot become what we want to be by remaining what we are.
Here’s to making the uncomfortable, comfortable!
If you have the opportunity – here are the current TDM studios that offer Dailey Cycle:
“Some of us think holding on makes us strong; but sometimes it is letting go.”
When you hear the words “let go”, you may first draw up a negative connotation. If someone is “let go” from work, you don’t celebrate. If somebody comments to a loved one that they have “let [themselves] go,” it is most likely not a compliment. And often times people think letting go equates to giving up.
This month, I want to bring to light the positive aspects of letting go – in Surrender.
By definition, Surrender is the act of letting go, of giving yourself over to something greater. This is certainly not a bad thing! In my experience when I try to resist or push back on something that isn’t comfortable, or not my ideal – I get a less valuable response. If I surrender to what is happening everything is so much easier.
“We are at our most powerful the moment we no longer need to be powerful.”
-Eric Micha’el Leventhal
Surrender requires a higher level of humility, of trust in the process and maybe even a leap of faith, but the outcome is worth it nearly every time. Last summer, Kerry Corcoran, owner of TDM Berkeley and Lamorinda gave us proof that amazing things can happen when you surrender.
I also love this quote by McCall Erickson: “Surrender – giving up what we think should be happening for what is actually happening.”
I just traveled for 18 days with my kids and this truly resonates with me. I am a person who likes to have plans, be in control, be on time. When you’re traveling with three children those tend to become nearly impossible. I had to surrender to their needs, their fatigue, their excitement to stay somewhere longer than I planned, or to leave while I was still enjoying myself. To eat when “it wasn’t time yet” or to just stay at the apartment longer because they needed time to relax; while there was so much to do and see! It was a constant play and because I allowed myself to surrender to their needs we flowed so much better and had an amazing bonding experience, whereas it could have been constant struggle.
In your Dailey Method practice surrendering can be:
Allowing yourself space to embrace where your practice is today
Letting go of hesitation and pushing your engagement further
Surrendering your ego and just listening to where you are in the moment
My favorite place to really surrender is in savasana. To allow the floor to rise up and meet and support me – to completely let go and release. It’s such an important practice to truly let the amazing hard work you’ve just done integrate deeper into your body and mind.
Surrendering to the moment at hand without any judgments is one of the best ways to know your true self. Practicing this shedding of inner resistance, of judgement and of anything that disrupts your peace will actually BRING you peace.
This month, focus on learning when to yield to something beyond yourself and see what amazing shifts might happen.
“When I let go of what I am, I become what I might be.” -Lao Tzu
“Every single day, do something that makes your heart sing.”
There were many voices that sang last weekend at The Dailey Method’s 9th annual Owners’ Retreat. Besides being a place where amazing connections take place, the event serves as a forum where some very special friends in my life – the TDM owners – can learn, grow, and make meaningful contributions to TDM. The heart of the Dailey Method is what makes it the amazingly special, supportive and beautiful community that continues to soar.
So, the Owners’ Retreat perfectly embodies May’s Word of the Month – Heart. Our hearts are our innermost part and we could not survive without it. Not only ARE these individuals the Hearts of their home communities, but they GIVE their hearts to their practice, their studios and to the people who walk in their doors every day. I know for myself that the love I have for my studios and to The Dailey Method is so personally meaningful. I am always in awe at the passion and dedication that the other owners show in making their studios the best (and the most fun!) they can be. While still maintaining The Dailey Method’s core principles of Align, Engage,Move.
The owners came from far reaches of the US, and beyond (Paris, Mexico and Canada)! I am reminded each year that there is an incredible level of diversity that makes up the Dailey Method. And by giving their all to create a welcoming and productive space to find alignment they are also able to create a space that is open to everyone.
There were so many, but here are some of the my personal highlights of the weekend:
The one-on-one introductions. I am fortunate to know them all but when they come together there can be electric synergy when they get to connect personally. The weekend began with that connection.
The small group breakouts that allowed us to collaborate together to learn, grow, and expand communally. And to brainstorm together to continually be able to offer you, our community, an ever-evolving product.
The amazing expo (1st picture above) where we had some incredible talent. Local and far reaching companies attended, people who can collaborate with our businesses in ways that help support us all as business owners and allow our communities simpler processes.
The dinners we had together, where we could unwind, laugh and celebrate together.
The hike on the last day through the headlands of Marin. Gorgeous perfect day.
The celebration of my newDailey Cycle studio in Fairfax. It wasn’t even open to the public yet and I got to have the best of the best across the world to come and teach there and show us their talents.
I want to SHOUT from the bottom of my heart a huge THANK YOU to each and every Dailey Method owner for believing in the product and showing up each day to share that with their community. And for the amazing corporate staff (you know who you are) that discussed, created and worked tireless hours to make it the most informative and fun retreat ever.
I know, kind of an odd Word of the Month. Generally we encourage you to set an intention around the word and focus on what you can learn from it. This WOM, we are able to take it literally and focus on its actual structure. Our spine is the very center of us. It is our axis and thus deserves our attention. To concentrate on your spine is the basis of The Dailey Method. It’s our first alignment principle and the root of every exercise we teach. Align.
There are three components involved in taking the best care of your spine:
Space: with ease, breathe as much space as possible from head to toe, head to tailbone – based on your position. This creates an ease in your structure. Creating space also helps encourage disc health. It helps the bones to be able to settle into the joints most optimally.
Find your neutral: We work in neutral spine in 75% of class. This is the healthiest position in our bodies. We should move through life primarily in this position. It’s still important to work the body in other positions because we need mobility and the ability to move multi-dimensionally. But if we focus on strengthening our bodies in their most functional position, it will translate to many facets of our lives.
Support: This is the act of keeping the space, keeping the alignment and hugging in and engaging muscular support for that optimal structure. It’s an inside out, supportive and easeful balance. Ease and effort.
Give yourself the gift in April of listening to the positions of your spine. Pay attention to whether you are capable of creating a little more space, a little better alignment and then, and only then, layer on the muscular energy that we all love so much at The Dailey Method. Your spine will thank you.
“You are only as old as your spine.”
-Joseph Pilates (my first inspiration to truly delve into training bodies.)