Word of the Month: Compassion

 

If you want others to be happy, practice compassion. If you want to be happy, practice compassion. Dalai Lama

Compassion is a hot topic right now. And that absolutely lights me up. I feel like I inherently am, and definitely want to be, a compassionate person. But that is not always the easiest route. Nor what we’re generally role modeled.  But now with teachers, workshops and communication around compassion so readily available to us -we all have the tools to hone this quality. We are given the opportunity to be the most compassionate versions of ourselves. And that is a life stride I’ll keep pushing forward.

Recently, I’ve been listening to Oprah SuperSoul Conversations (love!). A recent one that hit home for me was with Daniel Pink. I related when he mentions to ask yourself first thing in the AM if you’re better today than you were yesterday. My interpretation of his message is not that EVERYTHING has to be better in order to say yes. That would be simply unobtainable. The things that currently are the most relevant in my life and the ones that pop into my mind first are the ones by which I strive to evaluate my own success. For example: Did I take the time to get my workout in? Did I tell and show my kids I love them in my very best way? Did I accomplish what I HAD to accomplish yesterday? (I never accomplish it all – again – unobtainable).

Daniel said that he usually doesn’t have two “No days”  in a row. If he gets a No one morning, he’s more motivated to make a paradigm shift right then and there so that the next day it will be a Yes. Having self compassion while maintaining focus on self betterment is the way I intend to keep working. Aiming to wake up every day with a Yes!

I believe having compassion for other people is the only way to truly connect and that connection with others is the only way to live our fullest life. I have a practice of trying to stop and notice whenever I feel conflict with a person or a group. I do this by thinking about how it’s making me feel, and also and more importantly, by trying to sense how  they are feeling. I try to understand their feelings around the situation. When I practice this, I often realize that the current conflict isn’t really the issue. I find that if I step out of taking the conflict personally and try to understand what others are experiencing, we usually can create a resolution that serves everyone. Which leads to stronger and more connected relationships.

One of my favorite Oprah podcasts is her interview with Jeff Weiner (LinkedIn). This is a man who leads with compassion as the priority. I found the interview and his message so powerful and it definitely inspires me to lead by his example. I asked my entire company to please listen to it. In our professional and also personal lives, there is so much more positivity, productivity and life satisfaction when we’re relating to the people in our lives from a place of compassion.

Compassion for self is hugely important for our health. We all make mistakes, but we don’t have to live in them for one more minute than it takes us to acknowledge it, learn from it, and forgive ourselves. We shouldn’t spend the beautiful space we have in our lives by living with regret. Say you’re sorry to yourself. Say you’re sorry to the others it may have affected. And move forward decisively not to repeat the same mistake. That’s how we all learn and grow.

Compassion for your physical self is something we hope to help engrain in our students at The Dailey Method. We believe that every single person who spends time at our Studios should be able to receive positive benefits. We offer classes that are accessible to all body types and ages. We do our best to offer a space where every person feels accepted and invited. We provide community and company. We love what we do and want to share it with others because we want to help make our world healthier and happier. It happens here. We hear it all of the time from students and we believe it because we’ve experienced it ourselves.

I’m truly grateful for what I, and all of the passionate people that have been by my side have built; a place for all of us to be in an environment of compassion that gives us the space to hone our own best compassionate skills.

With LOVE and a YES

Jill Dailey

 

Word of the Month: Appreciate

I’m personally very excited about The Dailey Method word of the month for November – Appreciate. It’s been a strong focus in my life recently and I’m grateful for the opportunity to talk about it.

Appreciation plays such an important role with respect to loving ourselves and others. When we focus on what we honor inside each of us and also within the people we care about, it creates deeper connections and an impactful day-to-day life experience for everyone. I also feel that the word Appreciation aligns so much with Gratitude that they need to be combined.

Practice:

Gratitude and Appreciation

On a daily basis, I work to instill the practice of steering my 3 amazing kids to focus on the positive things that happened to each of them. I also intend to help them see circumstances or events that went RIGHT in their day versus allowing them to give an imbalanced amount of weight to the things they perceive or felt went WRONG. I do this not as a means to hide from what didn’t work or what still needs attention, but to help them see the light in what was positive.

At dinner, we have a practice of taking turns around the table to share with each other 1 thing we’re grateful for and 1 thing we appreciate about ourselves. When I first started this practice with them, the gratitude came so easy but the self appreciation was much harder. It came out one night that once of the reasons it was hard for them to verbalize self appreciation is because they got caught up in their feelings of ego or bragging about themselves. It’s made for a great talking point, and now if they can’t come up with something they appreciate, everyone else at the table tells them something we appreciate about them.

Before I go to bed each night I make a practice of writing down 3 things I’m grateful for and 3 things I appreciate about myself. It’s such a peaceful way to end the day with an outward and inward sense of positivity.

Example:

I am grateful for the strength my body has to move through this world with grace and energy

I am grateful for my three beautiful children

I am grateful for my Dailey Method community and how they’re always there to support me when I need it

I appreciate that I’ve worked hard to create a Method that really works in healing peoples bodies from the inside out

I appreciate my sense of humor

I appreciate my resiliency – that even when things get hard I can focus on the positive and continue forward

Take time to pause and invite a similar practice into your life and also into your TDM classes. When you are in holds or asking your body to push past to a new threshold of strength, appreciate – first – where your body is. Take a deep breath and honor all it gives to you and then with as much commitment to finding ways to appreciate others, feel gratitude that you are incremental gaining newfound strength and muscle memory.

Remember, with gratitude and appreciation on the forefront and leading, we are all sure to succeed and become better versions of ourselves in body, mind and spirit.

I appreciate everyone of you!

Love,

Jill

Word of the Month: Shine

Be true to your heart… put your whole heart and soul into it, and then whatever you do, it will shine through. Jamie Brewer

We chose the word of the month SHINE to correlate with our challenge and have named our annual challenge with two words that I believe sum up what we strive to do for you in every interaction you have at our Studios or with our Online service. Our goal is always to help you Align physically, mentally and emotionally so that you are able to take that alignment out into your life and literally SHINE!

I feel like I do a pretty good job of self care on a day to day basis but I also appreciate our specific studio challenges since they build in the structure for me to set aside time where I am dedicated and focused on my overall well-being with the support of so many around me. It helps me recommit my focus on all aspects of my health. I commit to taking the amount and diversity of classes that I intend for myself each week, but often times get canceled or pushed aside due to other things I allow to take priority.  I listen more deeply to what my body needs, make more intentional food choices, and get more sleep! I appreciate that the challenge focuses on different aspects of health and allows me the space to pay more attention to these important daily practices. I put them in the front of my mind for 21 days- with intention that it will continue with an onward momentum after the challenge has ended.

Taking time for ourselves, to nurture our minds and bodies, and to reflect inwards on what we need is the most important step to allow ourselves to truly shine. Let us all help each other become beacons of light, to believe in ourselves and to trust our own unique contributions. Doing so, gives others permission and incentive to follow because shining light from within is an expression of our heart. Accept the beautiful light that is within you and shine it out to others.

The Align and Shine challenge starts tomorrow! Have you signed up yet? If not click here to register for FREE and commit to 21 days of Aligning and Shining with our entire Dailey Method Community – Do it FOR YOU!!

One lucky winner will secure a spot at our Dailey Method Wellness retreat in Calistoga, California! Don’t miss this amazing opportunity to Shine from the classroom straight up to Indian Springs for some well deserved self-care, relaxation, and of course Dailey Method classes!

I’m sending you all love and light!

Jill

 

Word of the Month: Envision

Dream and give yourself permission to envision a You that you choose to be.  Joy Page

As I get back into somewhat of a rhythm every Fall, I like to envision the energy and intention I hope to bring to this new season. Kid routines, work commitments, balancing time both for my family and myself can all be stressful, but if I set my sight on what it is I want for the outcome, I usually find a way to make it happen.

Envisioning my own process in a positive way, no matter how chaotic, definitely helps me to grow in ways I never thought were possible. It’s easy to let the little things get to you or for the small stresses in a day to add up to a very big deal. However, taking a moment to just breathe, hug a friend or my kids, laugh at something mundanely ridiculous, always allows me the space to believe I can conquer any adversity that I come up upon. I first have to accept WHAT IS and then envision that at the end of the day, it’s all going to work out fine. And generally I’m surprised and things actually come together just GREAT! I had a good reminder a couple weeks ago. I was very overwhelmed and my son Julius looked at me and said “it’s all going to be okay Mom”. I said “how do you know that?”. He said “because it always does end up being okay in the end- right?” Wisdom of a 13 year old! He’s right!

While reflecting on September’s Word of the Month, “Envision” ask yourself what it is YOU need to achieve your best start to this Fall. Who do you want to show up as in your life and how do you want to be there for the people most important to you?

When you find yourself spinning in your own attempt to secure a steady and smooth rhythm, look at your glass as 80% full. Accept yourself and your efforts and believe that where you are, and that each choice you make in the moment, is exactly right. Stop to envision a different outcome if the path you are on needs to be adjusted. In the same way, you need to make small adjustments in class on your form – the same is true in your daily life.

And lastly, notice if you need additional support in making that shift by using the help of those who love you.

After all, if you believe it – it will happen. Envision the best possible scenarios during September.

The strength to live this way is inside us all. We just have to believe.

Love,

Jill

Fit Tip- 5 Minutes to Fitness

We think of August as a relaxing and fun time where we can still play and are able to enjoy the end of our summer. Right?

That is definitely not how I’m feeling at the moment! My kids are about to head back to school and rather than feeling as though a break is near, I’m finding it difficult to shift back into a schedule. Believe me, I love my kids, my time with them, AND my summer, but I always forget how difficult the transition back to the school year can be. I won’t be SO vulnerable that I let you know all of the things I’ve let slip recently, but let’s just say I’m feeling very human.

So in honor of our word of the month PLAY – and due to the fact that inspiration often comes out of chaos, I have been “playing” with an exercise series that is incredibly quick and efficient for those times you lack the mental focus and time to fit in a class.

This series takes a little over 5 minutes and focuses on seat work, yet has the intensity and efficiency of continual muscular engagement paramount for optimal results gained from our Dailey Method fundamental principles. I incorporate functional range of motion for multiple joints, tempo varieties to target core stability and balance and also muscular strength/endurance for multiple muscle groups. All at the same time!

With a strong focus, first on balance, these exercises require stabilization and support of your small muscle groups, especially your primary pelvic stabilizer – Gluteus Medius. Gluteus Medius is called into action when you have to move slowly between two points of foundation to one point. Then, tapping into your new found stability, you’ll start working with a quicker tempo to increase your heart rate and target deeper into the gluteal muscles, core stabilizers and muscles of your shoulders and arms. The final set is less range of motion of the stabilizing side, and will burn out your seat while additionally getting your heart rate up. Intrigued?

Deep Lunge to knee lift:

Start in a crescent lunge with your right leg forward and left back. Using your arms for contralateral support reach left one forward and right arm back. Find squareness of your pelvis by drawing front thigh bone back and back hip point forward. Very slowly (counts of 4) stand on front leg and lift back knee towards chest, moving arms in opposition. Move back to starting position in 4 counts. – 8 times

Pick up tempo- lift in two counts and lower in two counts. – 8 times

Bend your arms at 90 degrees (to protect your shoulders) and pick up tempo – lift on one count and lower on one count. 16 times

Stay in a deep lunge with arms stabilized by side (to strengthen rotator cuff) and do knee pulls 32 times. Repeat other side.

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We’ve got this! Embrace transition. Figure out what you NEED to get done. Give yourself the space to do it. And then let go of needing to do it ALL! Self love and Self love and self care is enough.

Even if and especially in small doses!

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