Connecting Through Communication

“Electric communication will never be a substitute for the face of someone who with their soul encourages another person to be brave and true.”

– Charles Dickens

Even over 150 years ago, Charles Dickens understood the importance of the different ways we communicate. Today communication and technology have become such a way of life, many of us would not know what to do if we were without them even for a day (you know what I mean if you have ever misplaced your phone!)

Besides being the one thing that sets us apart from any other animal on the planet, advanced language is the way we connect with each other. We use words, abbreviations or even slang to get our message out there.

What has taken a back seat, however, is the way we communicate using our bodies. Yes, an exclamation point at the end of a text message indicates how excited you are, but what does your body say about you?

Last month, I talked about being open and leading with your heart with some simple chest openers. Good posture and alignment is so important in conveying self-confidence and openness. And who doesn’t want to be a little more open and walk maybe just a bit taller?

Another body cue to draw attention to is eye contact. Eye contact is so telling, letting the person in front of you know if you are present, connected and if you want to engage on a more personal level.

Even our TDM owners understand its importance and have included more eye contact in their 2017 Intentions!

The last and maybe the simplest form of non-verbal communication worth mentioning is how we use our facial expressions to communicate. Yes, we have all been deep into the third set of thighwork and have felt the grimace creep in. But even one genuine smile can ignite a room and help push the group during the final set of ANYTHING.

So next time you prepare a tweet, text, or tag, think about what your body is saying when you are not using words.

Reveal a bit of your Soul and connect.

-Jill

 

March Word of the Month: Soul

Quiet the mind and the Soul will speak.”

  – Ma Jaya Sati Bhagavati

 

I chose Soul for the Word of the Month because of the depth it represents. It’s akin to February’s WOM Passion and the fire within but brings to mind an even deeper sense of self. A powerful notion, it is often thought of as our life force, our vitality or our true essence.

I love the phrase “Let Your Soul Shine” which may have been coined by Spiritual Gangster – the masters of making us exclaim our soul’s intent on our tank tops. But if our soul is shining it results in a true inside-out radiance, a raw bare-it-all of who we are.

The simple act of nurturing our soul should be a priority for full contentment. Do what you love and what speaks to the inner you and it will show.

 

“The authentic self is the Soul made visible.”

-Sarah Ban Breathnach

 

Let Your Soul Shine this month!

Jill

 

Chest Openers for an Open Heart

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At the Dailey Method, we know from experience and research how important it is to find balance in our bodies. In general, from our daily postures our back muscles tend to be weak and our chest muscles tight. This combination can negatively affect our posture, our back health and the confidence we project. In a Dailey Method class we make sure to give you a good balance of back work and chest stretches. However, doing a few additional on your own can make all the difference. Especially if you like to use your phone or computer a lot!

 

 

Single arm wall stretch:

Stand with your side to a wall and put your hand flat on the wall, fingers spread wide. Turn your focus towards the center of the room to increase the stretch. You can place your hand at shoulder height or a few inches above or below shoulder height to lengthen different fibers of the pectoralis muscles.

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Spine extension with chest opening:

Double benefit of working the extensors of your entire spine to create back body strength and chest flexibility. If you can’t keep your palms together it’s okay to just clasp your fingers. Try to reverse your grip ½ of the time and keep your focus on the ground to maintain length in your cervical spine.

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Kate Winslet stretch:

No wonder she had such great posture! This is my all-time favorite. You can use a counter if you’re not fortunate enough to have your own barre. Maintain your hands wider than hips, roll your chest open and lean your heart forward.

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Try to incorporate these simple, effective stretches into your self-care on a regular basis. Notice how you will feel more open with a little consistency.
Now you have even more reason to lead with your heart!

-Jill

February Word of the Month: Passion

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I chose Passion as the WOM for February. Passion is a big word! It is generally related to desire, affection, love and devotion. But I feel that so many aspects of our lives can relate to passion – if we live fully. It can be the way we feel about a cause that is important to us, a hobby, or a job. It can be for anything or anyone that really turns us on and lights us up.

“My mission in life is not merely to survive, but to thrive; and to do so with some passion, some compassion, some humor, and some style

          – Maya Angelou (One of my personal favorites!)

Passion doesn’t have to feel intense or singularly-focused. I picture it as something that feels like it’s shining or glittering, drawing me in; something that I know incorporating in my life just might encourage greater happiness. It can be something grand (like the love of your life) or something small (the book you’re reading that you can’t put down!)

“Every great dream begins with a dreamer. Always remember, you have within you the strength, the patience, and the passion to reach for the stars to change the world.”

          -Harriet Tubman (Another incredible inspiration. I love strong women!)

I thought about it and came up with the list of what I’m feeling passionate about it my life right now:

  • The evolution of the Dailey Method practice: I love every aspect of the training, teaching, development and growth of the curriculum.
  • The ability to always be a student. I am currently becoming Dailey Cycle trained. Even though I’ve been strongly involved in the development of this product I haven’t taught it nor owned it. I am in the process of building my own Dailey Cycle studio in Fairfax and am so excited to become stronger and more knowledgeable in a new direction.
  • I’m very passionate about raising my kids well.
  • I also experience passion personally in the studio. As a student being in the moment and feeling strong, or allowing compassion for myself and being okay with the need to back off. We want everyone to be their most authentic selves. Don’t compete unless you WANT to.
  • OMG as a teacher. I can wake up tired. My kids can be a pain in the &#% getting off to school. I “expect” to arrive a minimum of 15 minutes before class. Kids don’t always cooperate. The moment I turn on my mic and warm up song, however, I’m good. I’m happy and I’m present.
  • Traveling and expansion. Talk about PASSION. I love to travel. There’s so much I want to see and experience. It is true that travel is the only thing you spend money on that makes you richer.
  • I know, should have been 1, but if you really know me you understand. You know where I stand. I support it because it’s right. Not because I know it. Right?
  • Being supportive and supporting to people, especially women.

What turns you on the most? Or what are the things you crave for in your life in order to make you thrive.

Take a bit of time to think about what you’re the most passionate about. Or what you’d like to be passionate about. Don’t hesitate. Reach for it. Let yourself be your most expansive self.

 

The Dailey Method Connections

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In a world moving so rapidly, with fragmented bits of information coming at us from every angle; sometimes the only thing we feel connected to is the device in front of us.

If we can reach beyond, re-connect, and take care of what is important – we are building the foundation for a sound mind and are allowing that to translate into a healthy body.

Our TDM family knows the importance of genuine connection and shared with us their stories of how The Dailey Method is the place to find it…

 

 

Bryna’s Story – connection with community

If you find yourself at TDM in downtown San Francisco, you may run into Bryna O’Shea. O’Shea, who stumbled into a studio 4 years ago through an accidental booking, has been consistent in her practice since day 1. “Even though I was 61 when I started, I gravitated towards the strong TDM women around me, some of whom were 20+ years younger!”

O’Shea connected with a group of 6-7 women over time and soon had her clan. “We would always text each other and make it a point to go to the the same 11am class, to see each other, to sweat together.”

More remarkable than the physical strength O’Shea’s practice and group of friends gave her, was the emotional support she found while coping with the loss of her husband, a 6th degree black belt who had always advocated a healthy mind and body. “I knew I had to be stronger, and with these women we were all just trying to be the best we could be. Together.”

 

 

Lorna’s and Ashley’s Story – connection with self

For Lorna Bennett Samatas, a teacher, speaker and lifecoach, The Dailey Method is about connecting within. “Every time I practice I am reminded to tune-in (pay attention to my body, my breath, what is present right now); tune-out (external voices, distractions, etc….); and turn-on! (My mind, muscles, movement),” she says.

For Bennett Samatas, the more truly connected to herself, the more authentic her connections with others become.

Ashley Adam, owner of TDM San Diego, knows that The Dailey Method is a practice that teaches one to create a relationship – a deep connection between mind, body and spirit. “I can feel it all come together in those last moments of thigh work when all I want to do is give up but I take the opportunity to go within and feel all the fibers of my muscles working (or shaking!) to full capacity, my mind stays focused on maintaining alignment and helps me through.”

 

 

Erin’s & Kelly’s Story – connection with family & friends

For Erin Dailey Dern of TDM Naperville and Kelly Dailey Vinoche, TDM Paris owner, The Dailey Method is a sister/family bond that allows them to stay connected on so many levels.

They have a few serendipitous stories that extend the connection even further!

Renée, a friend, neighbor and now a long-time TDM client was the connection that introduced The Dailey Method to the Chicago area. She knew Erin was Jill’s sister and she had trained for the method in 2005. Two years later, Renée mentioned this fact to Colleen Patrino, the first owner of The Dailey Method Naperville and pioneer of the method in the Midwest . The rest is history as TDM opened its doors outside Northern California and Paris. It hasn’t stopped expanding since.

Elissa, a childhood friend of the Dailey sisters from Denver, moved to Naperville long before Erin did. She has since become an instructor at The Dailey Method here (and her daughter works the front desk!)

Sarah was 10 years old when she took her first class after Kelly trained in San Francisco with Jill and brought The Dailey Method to Paris in 2003.  She is now managing TDM Paris and has become the 1st second generation Dailey Method owner.

“My favorite part about The Dailey Method is the connection it gives me, across the Atlantic, to my sisters and now working with my daughter is a dream come true.”